It’s Okay Not to Be Okay.


A lot of us feels like if we cry or show any other emotion other than happy we are weak or something like that. And I think we all are guilty of saying “I’m fine” when we clearly are not!! There is just something about us that doesn’t want to show our real emotions to people. It’s just a way of protecting ourselves, I guess.


But, the truth is…… It’s Okay Not to Be Okay!!  It’s Okay to cry. It’s Okay to have a meltdown. It’s Okay to break.

We are all human. We all go through trails and situations that bring us to our knees. We all have had the time where we just broke from whatever we had been holding in. You can only hold it in so long, until you just kinda fall apart from all the stress, pain, frustration, ect. If it hasn’t happened yet, And you think you have everything under control, just wait…. It will! Everyone eventually, will come to their breaking point.


KJV 1 Peter 5:7 Casting all your care upon him; for he careth for you.

God, doesn’t want us to come to a breaking point, but as humans, we like to have control over our situations. When we completely give it all to God we are no longer in control. But, God wants us to cast ALL of our cares upon him!! Not some, Not half, But ALL! Because, if you just cast some of your cares on him, you are still in control and you aren’t completely trusting God! I know it’s easier said than done!! It’s not easy to give up control, but when you do, I promise, God WILL NOT fail you!!!20181204_195655

I had a breaking moment a few months ago, And I had one of my closest friends with her arm around me the whole time I was falling apart. We talked, cried, and talked more. This went on for probably 30 minutes or so and after I got done we got up and had a really awesome time the rest of the night. My point is…. We have friends for a reason!! Everyone needs a friend where they can help you carry your burden. I seriously don’t know what I would have done if my friend wasn’t there with me! She helped me more than she will ever understand!!

When we break it’s not a sign of weakness, it’s only a sign of weakness if you don’t get back up. Yes, we have moments of wanting to give up that’s human, but we can’t let it control us to the point where we do give up. When I had my breaking moment a few months ago, I could have easily let it mess up the rest of my night or week. But I didn’t, I got up and left it all right there. And I probably wouldn’t have done that if my friend wasn’t there talking to me and helping me. ecc33da6f0faca61c3bae6f0387f6e26 The main reason I broke was because I wasn’t wanting to except what was happening. And, for a short period of time I let it consume me and my emotions. I wouldn’t talk about what I was going through or anything because I didn’t want to face the reality of what was happening. And, since I held all of my emotion in for so long without facing it, when I did face the reality of what was happening, it broke me. It made me fall completely apart. But, after I talked about it I was okay and in that moment I was okay with not being okay.

Life isn’t always rainbows and flowers. There are a lot of ups and downs. And you don’t have to be happy all the time! God wants us to lean on him when we need help. We can’t do this alone, we have to have help!!

“There will be a day with no more tears, no more pain, and no more fears. There will be a day when the burdens of this place, Will be no more, We’ll see Jesus face to face. But until that day, we’ll hold on to you always.”

Just remember, It’s Okay Not to Be Okay!!!! I hope you all enjoyed reading! Stay strong and keep holding on!!Screenshot_20181201-010217_Samsung Internet



14 thoughts on “It’s Okay Not to Be Okay.

  1. Another beautiful post and message, Vanessa. 🙂 Yes, it’s okay to not always be okay. I believe one of the biggest reasons we are here on earth is to learn to use our free agency and the thing about that is, everything has its opposite which is the only way we can recognize what is right and wrong. We wouldn’t know joy if not for our sorrows. We wouldn’t know light if not for the dark. Etc. So it’s good to have down times and the key as you pointed out, is to pick ourselves up and carry on. I’m so glad you have some good friends to lean on, and that you know you have our Heavenly Father and Savior as well. They are always there for us, and many times, our trials help us remember them and turn to them for guidance and peace.

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    1. Thank you! Yes, I totally agree with you. If it wasn’t for trials I wouldn’t be where I am now and be as thankful for God’s grace. Trials help us more than we think if we actually take time to learn from them.


  2. As the Scottish psychiatrist R. D. Laing used to say : “A breakdown can also be a breakthrough.” Sometimes we have to fall apart so that the parts can fit back together in a way that works better and causes us less pain. And sometimes the fearful anticipation of emotional suffering is worse than the suffering itself when we allow it come through. Catharsis can actually feel good. Tears are a relief.

    For those who don’t believe in God, it can work to believe in the power of life to heal us emotionally. If we get cut, we can see life healing the wound. We don’t need to believe in God to see that, and the same is true of the process of life and loving relationships to heal us emotionally.

    I’m a pantheist, so for me God and the creativity of nature are the same thing. I just don’t believe in the supernatural aspects. But some people don’t believe in any kind of God at all, and I think that we are not all that different. Religious or not religious, we hurt, we fall apart and we heal. The process is there regardless of how it makes sense to us to think about it.

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